What I Learnt Coming Off Social Media For 72 Hours

 Social media is a love hate relationship for me. 

On the one hand I love that it enables me to spread my words in a little corner of the Internet and keep in contact with my loved ones back home. And on the other, I hate that it can occasionally impact my mood or take me away from the very moment I’m living in.

All this in mind, I realised it was probably time for a break when my girlfriend shot me on snapchap doing a photo shoot with a pineapple. I thought it would look super cute on Insta with the pool in the background. 

And it did. So yeah.

I took a break from social media for 72 hours and here’s what I learnt.

It gave me withdrawals! On Day 1 I woke up, felt anxious as fuck and couldn’t put my finger on as to why. Then it hit me; the worry that I might miss something or do my blog an injustice by not tracking my views or worse still, I might lose a follower! So I gave myself a talking to and did what every other self respecting person in Bali with anxiety does; drank cocktails and ate pasta. Word.

I had so much more time for activities! Day 2 came around and when I woke up, instead of reaching for my phone to go through the nights FB feed, I studied. The BF stayed asleep looking all cute and stuff and I took the time to catch up on some research. That’s unheard of because normally I’m checking to see what Gigi and Zayn got up to.

I felt refreshingly carefree. Should I post up another Instagram photo today? Is this blog post going too far? I really must reply to my friends FB message! These thoughts race through my head on a weekly basis and it was so freeing to give the internal chatter a rest. 

I am more than my phone, my blog and my brand. I am Emma. I’ve made no secret of the fact I believe my purpose in life is to help other women be their best selves but with that comes this enormous amount of pressure that for the most part, I put on myself. I’m working towards putting my name out there and in this day and age, social media is a huge part of building your reputation. That being said, just being Emma is another big part of making my dream a realisation. After all, people want to connect with real people. Not a screen. 

It’s a hell of a lot easier to not take things to heart. This could just be the sensitive soul in me or it could be something many of you too experience. Losing followers on Instagram, posting up a pic you think will get a lot of interest and it doesn’t; sometimes it can be a little hard to not take it personally. Recently a friend of the BF unfollowed me and it became a running joke on my girls trip to Bali – oh they had all heard about it! In the grand scheme of things though, would I have ever known had it not been for an app I use to track those pesky people who follow for follow to then just unfollow? Nope. I’d have never known, never questioned his motive to unfollow and in reality, it’s one less person I’ll ever have to share my food with. This pleases me.

The 72 hours came and went and obviously I hopped back on, checked out my notifications and gave myself a pat on the back for completing the challenge I set myself without spontaneously combusting.

Winning! 

Will I make an effort to stop my ever wandering thumb from hitting the home button on my iPhone? Yes.

Will I stop using social media altogether? No.

I have deleted the app that shows me who’s followed and unfollowed me however and with it, a little bit of social anx.

Don’t think that’s a cue to unfollow me and get away with it though. 

I will find you

  

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10 responses to “What I Learnt Coming Off Social Media For 72 Hours”

  1. Sita says:

    I used to be on Facebook & Twitter (before Instagram was super popular) all the time. Then I realised it started to consume me. I’m so glad you tried this and found lots of benefits. Today’s society lives in the virtual world way too much!

    • emmalouise says:

      Consume is such the right word hey Sita! Hope you’re feeling a bit better now lovely and looking forward to catching up for a coffee when i’m home 🙂

  2. Rachel says:

    I’m glad you deleted that app, that is one sure-fire way to set your anxiety raging! I’ve suffered massively from anxiety and panic attacks over the past few years and have been very strict with myself in what I allow in my personal head space and working out what negative influences I don’t want in there. App like this would definitely be affecting my anxiety so I’m glad you gave it the boot! 🙂

    • emmalouise says:

      Our personal headspace is so precious Rach, I totally agree. It’s about setting yourself kind limits and not overwhelming our systems anymore than they need to be. I’m always available for coffee catch ups to talk about kicking anxiety in the backside 🙂

  3. hannah says:

    LOVED this post Em! When I lived in London I didn’t even have an iPhone so only checked my blog, social media etc. when I had time booked out to do so and you know what I was SO much more present and engaged in life- I went out more, had more fun and definitely did more and it totally did NOT affect my blogging, I still went to blogging events a few times a week and was non stop blog life..so it’s almost funny watching people saying they need phone access 24/7 for blogs sake. I hate watching people out and an about (I’m guilty too) sat on their phones on Facebook instead of talking to each other!

    x

    We are Dannah | Australian lifestyle blog

    • emmalouise says:

      This is so true Hannah, you really can be present and run a blog at the same time! And I only realised this when I took time away which is so sad. Glad I saw the 72 hours through and learnt this valuable lesson x

  4. I really want to unplug, but I have a few blog posts that need to go up. It’s never ending!!!
    That app that tracks Insta followers certainly does cause a few headaches. I wrote about howit made me take things abit too personally at times

    http://www.theglamwhisperer.com/the-beauty-in-the-meltdown/

    • emmalouise says:

      Oh awesome take on it hun!! You’re so right that it can make you take things personally and really, aren’t we worth so much more than an app of followers? Makes you think huh xx

  5. Claire says:

    Loved this post!
    I deleted my Facebook profile earlier this year for this very reason. I totally felt like I was forgetting to live in the moment and often found myself missing things the kids were doing or saying because my head was in my phone.

    I now only use Twitter and Instagram for my blog but make a big effort to not let it consume me any more!!

    xxx
    Claire
    http://www.theclairediary.co.uk

    • emmalouise says:

      Thanks for the comment Claire! It’s so easy to get wrapped up in social media huh? Even now I find myself online gone 10pm trying to catch up with things. I’m definitely a working progress 🙂 hopefully we can all learn to be in the moment more xxx

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